I’m here to guide you through life’s transitions.

as a mad, crip, death and transformation care worker + consultant, i’m here to help you as a friend, peer and community member. how can we work together to ease the challenging transitions you might be going through?

Change is hard.

From the words of our late disabled ancestor, Stacey Park Milbern, a crip doula supports and mentors disabled people (either newly disabled or someone becoming further/more disabled— or hell, a person who might be dealing with their disabilities during a significant life change.) When I talk about being a mad, crip transformation care worker and consultant, I am referring and adding to the work of existing doulas such as Project LETS director, Stefanie Lyn Kaufman Mthimkhulu and author Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha. I do not like using the word doula, as it is the Greek word for female slave, instead I describe what I do is as care work. Here are some of the things I can offer you in the process of your life’s transitions.

The work that I do is that of a community care worker. I am not a licensed professional healthcare provider or therapist. As such, I do not provide clinical or medical advice, nor do I have training. I can provide emotional, spiritual, informational and physical (if located in the NYC area) support and guidance for individuals and groups. Please refer to my ethos to get a better idea about the values I bring to my work.

How I can support you

  • I provide one-off sessions or ongoing support.

    For those interested in ongoing support, I provide:

    - Check-ins and access to me via text, voice notes or e-mail

    - Development of Care Plan (Crisis, Safety and Advanced Directives) and Care Webs/Constellation Mapping

    • I use T-MAPS, WRAP and SOILTJ’s Pod Mapping as templates for this work together, but we create these living documents together.

    - Customized tools and resources (I set up a CryptPad drive folder just for you, and you have access to my drive for all clients and community members with all the resources I have on offer)

    - Patient Care Advocacy & Support, including roleplaying or providing scenarios to practice.

    • If you are in NYC, I can also accompany you to medical appointments and provide access intimacy.

    - Task-Oriented Sessions: Let me help you get health insurance or use it to your fullest extent, job applications, finding new providers

    - Somatic & Mental Health Exercises and Approaches

    • While I am not a licensed therapist (though my background is in Social Work!) I borrow techniques from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, mindfulness, Buddhism, and somatic practices that can help ground us.

    While it is most cost-effective to work with me long-term, I welcome one-off support sessions.

    One-Off Containers:

    • Our first session will last a minimum of 1 hour.

    • If you decide to continue working with me, you can upgrade to an ongoing container or book additional sessions from 30 minutes and up.

    • You can record and download the session.

  • - End of Life Care/Death Work (Virtual and In-Person with COVID & Access Needs Met)

    - End-of-life planning

    • Including but not limited to: Advanced directives, living wills, legacy project making, life reviews, digital + IRL legacy arrangements, possessions + financial cataloguing, dependent + pet care, and gathering important information + documents

    - Caring for the Dying (MOSTLY IN-PERSON)

    • Companionship and Sitting Vigil, caretaker/giver respite and support, help with funeral arrangements and options, obituary, eulogy and memorial writing, rituals & Ceremonies (Creation and Execution); any resources I can provide.

    - After Death Support

    • Wrapping up loose ends, closing accounts, canceling services & utilities, processing mail and e-mail, digital password allocation, possession handling, and grief support

    - Patient Care Advocacy & Support

    - Fat Liberation

    - Queerness

    - Disability & Neurodivergence

    - Grief

    - Spiritual Guidance + Occult Wisdom (Ask about this, as I will only offer it upon request)

    - Alternative Relationship Structures & Peer Support

    • I am a polyamorous person with lived experiences of dating as a mad, fat, crip person. I can help you think of ways to best approach your relationships while being sensitive to your needs.

    If the topic(s) you want to cover are not listed here, but you think I can help— I’m happy to hold space for you however I can. Feel free to inquire upon contact!

Want to work together?

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